I have a blended family I have three children and two step sons, all of which I am very proud of. Sometimes it is hard to understand how it all functions, by that I mean who is responsible. For instance sometimes there maybe something that you may not agree with and you want to be heard. You may to “Flex” your parental muscle and say this is the way it has to be.

Hello,

Wow it has been a while since I wrote in this blog :( Sorry. Well I love the title, I thought about this title and it is a perfect fit. Blended family, Step Children, Step Family, whatever one wants to call it. We can kick the vernacular tires on this one all day. I have a blended family I have three children and two step sons, all of which I am very proud of. Sometimes it is hard to understand how it all functions, by that I mean who is responsible. For instance sometimes there maybe something that you may not agree with and you want to be heard. You may to “Flex” your parental muscle and say this is the way it has to be.

My two step sons have a great father in their lives, I mean an awesome dad. If you can follow this his ex-wife is my wife simple huh? Well I am compelled to write about these two people. My wife who is by far the second best mother I have ever met in my life.  When I first met her I found it strange how well they [her ex-husband] got along, I thought wow they are divorced is this real? Throughout the past four-five years I have come to realize it is not about them. As Dr. Phil would say “It’s not about you”. They both know and they both want what’s best for their sons. They talk everyday they discuss, grades, activities, sore throats, and weekends. Who is picking up and dropping off, football, baseball, and other activities. I sometimes think man I wish I had a relationship like that with my ex-wife but that is another blog ;)…

Anyways back to the topic – I have found that the truth is in this “Blended Family” we all have to want to work together and then work together to make it a reality. On two occasions I had to travel to be in a court room in NC and my wife wanted to be there. She would talk to her ex-husband and he would say no problem I will watch the boys. When we would talk about I would tell my wife that her and her ex- should start a program and talk to others that can’t get along. I commend these two people and I praise them for the great work they do together for their children’s sake.

Take Care,
-Randy