For a non-custodial parent it is tough, difficult at times to understand or to have the Patients to deal with the court system, work, and home life and so on. If you find that you at the end of the proverbial “Rope” please be patient and understand. If you have done everything you can and you’re happy with yourself and what you have done, please be patient. The judicial system will do its thing and in its own time everything will work out.

I write about Patients & Understanding for a few different reasons. The first reason is because that I finally understand what it means to be patient. Make sure you do what you can to make your life livable for you. Day to day things get up in the morning and brush your teeth, get dressed and have some coffee! Go to work and do the best you can to grow your skill set and your professional outlook. Take a different way to or from work, stop at a local gas station and buy a king size snickers and eat it right away. Call your attorney and ask him/her “What’s another word for Thesaurus”?

I guess what I am trying to say is take care of things you can and put the others at “His” feet. Anything that you cannot change you will not so don’t even try.  There are some issues, people, and things in our life that we cannot do anything about, NOTHING! I am not the type to say “Deal with it” I am the type that will say “Come on let go get a snickers”. That whole thing about life handing you lemons and making lemon aid, no lemons are sour all together. Find something that you enjoy doing and do it.

I sit writing in this Blog October 9, 2007 I actually have two court dates back to back in two different cities 590 miles apart. One on the 16^th and the other on the 17^th there is nothing more I can do. I have two attorneys and they are very good at what they do. I don’t want to continue either case I want to attend and get things straightened out and move on with life. This is where patients come in as well as an understanding. I can’t change anything between now and then I realize this and I am setting this/these at “His” feet. Let go and Let GOD – I have been living by this for the past four/five years now.

Please be patient and understand that it will work itself out and when all is said and done, it will be ok. If you can I would like for you to try to understand the other side as well. Look at from the Mom, custodial parent side. They have concerns, and I am sure some may be valid and some will be exaggerated and over the top. This is where you need the patients, and let the court/Judge make their decision.  I guarantee you if: you have done everything you can and you’re happy with yourself and what you have done you will be ok.

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Take Care,
-Randy

I have a blended family I have three children and two step sons, all of which I am very proud of. Sometimes it is hard to understand how it all functions, by that I mean who is responsible. For instance sometimes there maybe something that you may not agree with and you want to be heard. You may to “Flex” your parental muscle and say this is the way it has to be.

Hello,

Wow it has been a while since I wrote in this blog :( Sorry. Well I love the title, I thought about this title and it is a perfect fit. Blended family, Step Children, Step Family, whatever one wants to call it. We can kick the vernacular tires on this one all day. I have a blended family I have three children and two step sons, all of which I am very proud of. Sometimes it is hard to understand how it all functions, by that I mean who is responsible. For instance sometimes there maybe something that you may not agree with and you want to be heard. You may to “Flex” your parental muscle and say this is the way it has to be.

My two step sons have a great father in their lives, I mean an awesome dad. If you can follow this his ex-wife is my wife simple huh? Well I am compelled to write about these two people. My wife who is by far the second best mother I have ever met in my life.  When I first met her I found it strange how well they [her ex-husband] got along, I thought wow they are divorced is this real? Throughout the past four-five years I have come to realize it is not about them. As Dr. Phil would say “It’s not about you”. They both know and they both want what’s best for their sons. They talk everyday they discuss, grades, activities, sore throats, and weekends. Who is picking up and dropping off, football, baseball, and other activities. I sometimes think man I wish I had a relationship like that with my ex-wife but that is another blog ;)…

Anyways back to the topic – I have found that the truth is in this “Blended Family” we all have to want to work together and then work together to make it a reality. On two occasions I had to travel to be in a court room in NC and my wife wanted to be there. She would talk to her ex-husband and he would say no problem I will watch the boys. When we would talk about I would tell my wife that her and her ex- should start a program and talk to others that can’t get along. I commend these two people and I praise them for the great work they do together for their children’s sake.

Take Care,
-Randy